Well, I actually did it this morning - I took Fisher to the nursery!! I know that probably doesn't sound like a big deal to most people, but it has been for me. I have always been of the belief that my kids are not going to the nursery. They will sit in church with me and learn that that's just what we do. Ellie always has a bag full of goodies to keep her entertained. Well, I'm still learning to never say never! I also said that Ellie would never go to Wee Worship; she'll sit next to me in church b/c that's what I did. Well, I now am very grateful for Wee Worship. I'm actually wondering what's going to happen when she turns six and has to sit in church with me again. I guess I've planned it well enough that Fisher will start Wee Worship shortly after that.
But back to today, it really upset me at church today. Fisher was just so tired that he was really vocal with his emotions and I actually had to take him out twice. Thankfully we were sitting with Allison with Rachel & George behind us, so they kept an eye on her for me. But for some reason it really bothered me that I left her in church without me. I don't think that's a good solution either. Well, on my second trip out of the auditorium with Fisher I ran into Becky Majors and chatted for a minute and just felt like the nursery was the right thing for today. When I got back in church with Ellie, she was so sweet. She just popped up on the seat right next to me and gave me a big hug and just really seemed to be excited that I was in church with her. I guess I'm not ever really in church with her even though I'm sitting right next to her b/c of the entertaining I have to do for Fisher. Still, at that point, though, feeling guilty that I had dumped Fishy off in the nursery.
After Wee Worship Bonnie came up to me and told me their lesson was about kindness today and wanted to share with me what Ellie has said about kindness. Ellie had told them that I was very patient with Fisher this morning and then I took him to the nursery and came back in church and she got to sit with me and that I was very kind to her b/c I was paying attention to her. Seems like maybe Ellie has been feeling a little left out in church.
Fisher did fabulous in the nursery today. When I picked him up he was chatting and smiling, much better than the tear-stained eyes I had dropped him off with. Who knows if I'll do it again next week. I know I really should b/c everybody seemed to benefit from it, but it's hard to go against my core belief. And, too, I guess it boils down to the fact that I don't give up control of Fisher very well. Gotta work on that as well.
OH, just remember, I'll be in Gatlinburg next Sunday - YEA! Don't have to worry about the nursery situation.
About Me
- Dianne Bryden
- I have been married ten years to a great hubby. We have two wonderful children: Ellie born 8/03 and Fisher 2/07, which means we have a sassy, independent 5-year-old and a sweet little 2-year-old. The kids are great and we're so blessed by them. Jeff & I both have our parents close by that we get to see all the time. We're a close family and it's nice to have them around. I am a court reporter and have been for 14 years! I love my job today just as much, if not more, than I did when I started. I also have a great church family at Clear Creek!
3 comments:
It is hard juggling 2 but you are doing the right thing you just have to listen and the older ones will let you know what they need...You are such a good mommma get rid of the guilt...xoxo
Having two kids is much harder than I ever thought it would be! You feel so torn between the two of them. I definitely think you did the right thing. We end up taking Avery to the nursery almost every Sunday because he just cannot sit still for an hour! It's too much to ask of a little one. Ashlyn just turned seven and she has a hard time sitting still that long!
I can so relate! I have such an issue with nursery and I feel so ridiculous! I have used it about a dozen times and each time I just felt so "defeated". I had better get used to using it, cause I am at worship without Will usually, and with another baby on the way that puts me in quite a pickle. Even just being pregnant-- you never know if you'll need to be darting for the bathroom-- and then you can hardly move cause you're belly's so big-- so I'm certain I won't be able to hog tie Jenny for worship like usual.
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